Just like adults, children experience stress in their lives as well. But, stress for children can be far more frightening than it can be for most adults. So, it is important for caregivers and parents to be able to identify when children are getting stressed out and learn how to help the child manage their own stress. Below are a few pointers that might help guide you in the right direction with this situation.
Understand that even toddlers can be stressed out by having to meet new people in the home or perhaps going to a day care center and this is because there has been a break in the normal family routine that a toddler has become accustomed to. Also, older children have to deal with stress brought on by peers, the expectations of their teachers and their parents and all of this needs to be taken into consideration. So as parents it’s important that you do your best to serve as a positive model when it comes to managing stress. If you have trouble handling it, there is no doubt that your children will too. So it’s important if you learn to manage yours so that they can learn from how you handle your personal stress.
It’s really important to remember that you do not want to solve every single problem that your children have. You need to be able to allow your children their own opportunity to learn how to work through their problems so that they will understand the value of problem solving on their own. It is not going to help your child at all if you try to fix everything for them. So it is sometimes a good idea to not even try to offer them any advice. Sometimes if you just listen to what is bothering them might be just all that they need to relieve them from the stress that’s bothering them.
As said before, don’t try to give advice, especially don’t be the type of person that is always giving advice for every little thing that might come up. Just listen to your children and let them vent. Venting can be a good source of release when a child is dealing with stress. So, it is important that they feel that they can come to you to talk about problems without feeling like you are going to interrupt or try to fix it for them.
Make sure that you do however, ask your children the types of questions that are going to encourage them to think about the problem on their own without your help. Ask them what they think the next step might be in how to handle the situation that they might be facing.
You also should consider teaching your children that it is important to learn how to take deep breathes when they feel stressed. Deep breathing is a wonderful way of relieving stress for anyone. Another good thing to have them do when they are stressed out is to listen to some nice, calm and soothing music.
You should also think about the different things that you find helpful to relieve your own stress and if these are things that you think that your children could do with ease, then go a head and show them what you do and pass it onto them. You could have them take the dog for a walk, suggest they go out and shoot a few hoops or ride their bike, some sort of exercise that will take their mind off of the stress. All these things can work workers on relieving the stress a child is feeling, even adults.