Everyone probably has the desire to be an outgoing individual but it’s also something that a lot of people find it difficult to do because they do have some degree of shyness that hold them back. If you are like that and sometimes feel awkward in some social situations, you can overcome this and teach yourself how to become a more outgoing person. Below are a few pointers that might help you achieve that goal.
One really important thing to do if you are trying to become more outgoing is to make sure that you keep up on all of the latest current events, new movies, newest TV shows, music, sports, etc. Try to know a little about a lot of different things because these topics are always good conversation starters. This is especially true if you find that there’s a lull in the conversation. Silence can be very intimidating.
Always make sure to go out of your way to always try and greet people wherever you go with a nice warm and friendly smile. People love to be greeted in that fashion. Also try to get them to talk about themselves by asking them questions about them. People like to talk about things in their lives that interest them and it makes them feel good when others show an interest. Pay attention to what they have to say and don’t worry about responding to their comments. Just let them have the spotlight for a while. Make sure however that you do your best to make eye contact with them when you are listening to them as well as when you talk to them. If it’s hard to do that you can always look at the area that is between the eyes and forehead on a person’s face. This will give them the illusion that you are giving them eye contact and will make it easier on you.
Make sure that when you are talking to someone that you watch your own body language. People can feel uncomfortable by others expressions and body position when talking to them. For instance if you used what’s called closed body language like folding your arms tightly across your body or rigidly at your sides gives others the feeling that you reject interacting with others. It sends out a message that you want others to just leave you alone. Refusing eye contact can do exactly the same thing.
A good way to welcome other people would be to relax and loosen your arms and shoulders keeping your arms fluid and relaxed. Straighten your back a little and you’d be amazed how posture will express a more willingness to accept interaction with others. A more relaxed stance will attract more people. Don’t fidget, fidgeting shows signs of nervousness and being uncomfortable and this makes other people feel exactly the same. If you come off as being calm, others around you will feel calm as well.
When in a conversation occasionally incorporate some of your own personal stories that might be funny, charming or even weird. People have a tendency to be drawn to a conversation when a person tends to be a good storyteller because it makes other conversation a little easier because a lot of the work has already been taken care of by the storyteller.
Another good way to become more outgoing is to join an organization, sports team, social club, church group, etc. whatever might interest you or might be important to you. It’s a lot easier to get to know other people when you happen to share a lot of the same interests.
There are a variety of things that you can do that can help you become more outgoing, the things mentioned here are just a few of the things that you can do and need to be aware of when it comes to being outgoing. Remember it’s important how you physically come off to others that’s a huge key in your success. So practice with friends, get together with them, organize outings and different things with them on a regular basis. By doing this, you will be taking just one more step towards being that outgoing person you’ve always wanted to be.