Face it, having relationships with other people can be tough and if you find yourself looking at your relationship and think that it’s headed for disaster, separation or even divorce if you are married, you might find yourself in a situation where you feel like you just have nowhere to turn. You feel like you don’t want to leave and give up but at the same time you don’t know how to stay around. Here is a little bit of advice to try and help you out in a situation like this.
One of the first things you should try to do is sit down and figure out what the real issues are. These issues can be anything that has actually caused one or both of you to feel like the relationship is simply broken. Have this conversation with your loved one without children around if you happen to have children together. You also should not have a conversation like this in a bedroom. Sounds silly but it might be easier to have the conversation elsewhere as well as making sure to have a paper and pen with you as well. It might be easier to mend the situation if you keep track of what is being said.
Once you have everything out in the open you should try to agree to work together on the things that need work. You should figure out what it may take from the two of you to solve the problems that you have pinpointed and to mend your broken relationship. Depending upon how complex the issues are this could take a lot of time to figure out, so patience is key.
Whatever you do, don’t close your line of communication with one another. Make sure to always talk to one another and keep each other posted on any new issues that might come up just from trying to get yourselves back on track as a loving couple. If you continue to talk to each other you could end up cutting back on miscommunications and misinterpretations of the issues.
You need to also make time for one another. If you have kids, get a babysitter more often than you use to and go out on a date at least once a month, more if you can. If you can’t afford to go on dates often, then have your kids taken elsewhere so that you can have your date at home and enjoy each others company without interruption. Make a dinner together and put in a movie to watch together alone. The most important thing here is that you are doing something together as a couple. If you spend time together in an atmosphere that is positive is going to go a long way in helping to mend a broken relationship.
Make sure that you make a conscious effort to do different things for one another. Especially try to remember to do some of the things you use to do for each other. Do little things like surprising your loved one with love notes, breakfast in bed or something else, the things you can do are endless if you just put your mind to it. Just make sure that whatever it is you do is something they will immediately recognize as a sign of your love.