Death of course is something that none of us can avoid, it’s going to happen. But, though this fact is true, it does little to give us comfort when a loved one is lost. Or how about the couple that loses a child before they are born or after they are born? There are so many emotions that course through those suffering these losses that their worlds are turned totally upside down. For some it is natural to turn to their spirituality and turn to God to find relief and seek some kind of hope and with others it’s a time they may turn away from God because they can find no logic or sense in the death they have experienced.
A lot of spiritual counselors, clergy and others will try and advise those suffering from such grief to try and understand that there are five stages to grief and that they can expect to experience all of them, which are the following:
Everyone will grieve in their own way and not always in this order, but they will experience each stage at some point. Along with the different stages people grieving may also experience fatigue, brain fog, lack of appetite, overeating, keeping overly busy to avoid the grief and insomnia. If these kinds of things last far longer than 6 months it’s possible that the person grieving may need to seek some professional help.
It is also very common for those experiencing this kind of grief to stop and question God, asking Him why He let this happen. Then afterward it’s just as common to begin to feel guilty about actually having the nerve to question God in the first place.
When a person grieves, it is probably one of the loneliest feelings in the world. So, it is very important for this person to not suffer from any prolonged isolation. Instead they need to reach out to others for emotional support. They need to reach out to their pastors, members of their church, their family and/or their friends.
If you are giving counsel to someone who is grieving remember to be encouraging and tell them to not only reach out to God but to others who believe in God for their encouragement. It’s also a good idea for them to be encouraged to also find others who have suffered a similar loss. “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” (Matthew 5:4)
Another suggestion is to encourage the grief stricken to find comfort in scriptures. The Bible offers many scriptures of comfort about Heaven and eternal life. This could be comforting to those grieving if they feel like they know their loved one is in Heaven with God and are free of pain and any suffering this world may have offered them. “There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” (Revelation 21:4)